Do you resist yourself to be 'Silent' at places, where you shouldn't ?

Hello dear friends

Hope you all are doing fantastically fine.

1^st Feb 2019. Wow, January - the first month of the new year 2019 has been passed. It is a new beginning, let us all take a fresh start again. No matter if you have to stick to your new year resolutions or not, It’s a new month-new beginning. Think as if it’s the very beginning only, take your resolutions all again, do work very hard to work on them with full dedication and enthusiasm. And don’t forget to keep your ultimate goal in front of your eyes always. It is what you are living for, it is what you have taken birth.

Brief blog intro :

Allow me to become your guiding hand for all your ‘Personality’, ‘Relationship’ and ‘Daily Life’ related issues. I assure you, I’ll never let you down. I would love to help you all. Because my philosophy is a little different from most of the people – ‘I really want to bring a change in this world, even at the smallest level’, ‘I really want no one to make the same mistake that I have made in my past’ and eventually ‘I really want the entire world to remember me in their blessings for bringing a significant positive change in their life’.

Today, as the very beginning of New year (virtual). I am up with a topic that I think has changed my life completely since the day I have brought it to use. There were times when I used to suffer a lot due, I used to be stressed a lot, I used to hurt myself a lot. But since the day, I have started working on this, day by day I have gotten over all those. Mastering this thing has brought a new light, enthusiasm, and a new level of happiness in my life.

Remaining silent every time will not take you places:

So, let me start with a short story describing this.

Rahul is a very good friend of mine. He is currently pursuing engineering from MANIT Bhopal. Rahul used to be a very sincere student since his very childhood. He has always been the 1^st ranker in his School time. He has been accoladed by various prominent personalities for his excellent achievements in various events, competitions, and exams. Rahul keeps on doing the same excellent performance in all fields, either academic or non-academic in his college time too. Rahul was an extremely kind and polite kind of person. He has hardly hurt a single person in his life. Everything was so good, everyone was happy with him, everyone likes him, everyone cares for him.

But along with all these positive traits, Rahul has a habit of not saying anything to a person which will hurt him or her, even if this filled him up with extreme sorrow and anguish most of the time. Let us simplify it. Let me ask you- “is it right to hurt yourself for the sake of the happiness of others”. Some of you will say, yes. Alright, you aren’t wrong at all but you are not absolutely right either. Whenever you travel on a flight, you might have heard from the flight staff – ‘In case of emergency, first wear your oxygen mask then help others to’. You might think this is not a humanly act or what I am saying is just rubbish. But men, please try to understand. Don’t take it as ‘Place your happiness first, even if it takes to hurt others'. I am not saying this at all.

Read this and you'll get the point:

Let us take an example of a poor family, where the mother in the home due to the scarcity of food, compromises her hunger to make her children eat and to ultimately make them happy from inside. This is not at all related to what I am saying above, this is just ‘Mother Love’.

I just want to say that if you want to say something to someone. He or she may be your spouse, boyfriend-girlfriend, relative, friend, or even your mother-father. And if you are just suppressing yourself to not say it, only because it will make that person feel bad or sad. You resist yourself and you are the person who bears all that sadness. Don’t use cuss words or anything which will hurt the sentiments of that person even if you are so angry with them. But don’t resist yourself to not say a single word too or to clear your side. If you have something in your mind, that you want to tell a person for a long time – it may be related to any kind of feud or a relationship issue and it is eating you day by day. But still, you just don’t say it to the respective person, thinking of how he or she would feel or your relationship will go bitter. Let it be my dear friend, if it is affecting your relationship, if it is making them feel bad or if they are gonna make a wrong image of you in their minds. Let them be. Please, do understand. It would not be as painful and not affect your life in a negative matter that not telling it and resisting it within will do. You will feel the happiness and satisfaction in your life, you will feel like you aren’t bounded by anything, you will feel like no one is there who is eating you gradually. And this feeling would be something beyond all your unnecessary pre-assumed worries.

Following it:

I had the same situation today. I was having some dispute with one of my close friends. I was so much tensed and worried because of it. I wanted to tell her that you are not right. I know I have hurt you but there is a reason behind it and that’s worth hurting you. I wasn’t feeling at all to tell her all this and just resisted me not doing it. But then, I took control over my senses and tell her everything, without thinking about what would be her reaction, how would she respond back, etc. I told her everything and she agreed with all those things too. Maybe it was tough making her understand, but I eventually did it and this filled my heart with much happiness and pride that I can’t express in words.

I hope, you all have gotten the essence of the above post.

Do follow it and feel the change in your lives, see your life going at a smooth and swift pace.

Please mention your comments in the comments section. They will help me get more knowledge and will definitely help me to improve a lot.

See you tomorrow then

Take care of yourself

Good night!