Hello dear friends
Hope your Valentine's week is going as awesome as you are.
It's the 3rd day of Valentine's week- the 'Chocolate day'. I like this day very much, not because I like chocolates. But because my partner doesn't like them at all. In fact, she hates it. Do I need to elaborate on it anymore? 😁
In my previous post:
- I had told you about how to write a love letter to your partner.
- I had also written a sample letter to make things clearer and more relatable.
- I had told you, what is the most reliable way to initiate a conversation and make her fall for you.
If you haven't gone through the post, give it a read here How to write a love letter. Writing a love letter or a love note is very important if you are actually planning to take your relationship to new heights.
In this post :
Today, I am up with the question "Why do we want to be loved, but not want to give our love"? This question is a little dubious, read it all again and you will understand it.
I have seen this issue in the lives of many of my peers for a long time. But, I didn't think much about this. Yesterday, a good friend of mine suggested writing on this topic. The way she explained the question and the illustration she gave me, were phenomenal enough to make me write on this. I had never gone in very deep of this topic, but her brilliant ideas forced me to do so.
So, let us find the answer to one of the most difficult questions, which strikes our way every now and then.
Question. Why do we want to be loved, but don't want to give our love?
For understanding the above question and to properly answer it, we first need to know what 'True love' is?
I have explained to you very clearly about 'True love', and how does it differ from 'Attraction' and 'So-called true love'?
You can get the proper explanation here Let us understand what true love is?
Now, when you are clear with it. Another question raises is, what do I mean by "to be loved"?
In the simplest language, it means that we want someone in our life who care for us, make us smile, help us in dealing with our life issues, always stand by our side, and last but not least- who make us feel like we aren't alone in this world.
Things which could make you feel 'loved':
- Any smallest act of kindness by our partner for the sake of our happiness. It could be simply asking us if we have taken lunch? How was our day? Is our health good? etc.
- If our partner cares for us but along with it he or she cares for our family also.
- If our partner helps us in even the smallest routine life works. Like, watering the plants, cleaning up the cupboard, finding a lost important document.
- If our partner stands by our side, even when our health isn't good, we are going through a bad time, we are going through huge despair.
We all love it very much when someone does all the above things or at least anyone from them, for us. Who doesn't want someone in their life who helps them, cares for them, and stands with them unconditionally? We all want that 'Someone'. Maybe you won't agree but deep inside your mind is saying a big 'yes'.
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Now the point is, we all want someone who does all these favors for us.
But, the question that arises is 'Are we willing to give the love, care, and affection to someone which we are seeking for ourselves?'
Read the above question again, it is the extract of the entire topic.
Most of you would be in a serious relationship, their answer would definitely be yes for this. Because what the most important thing in a relationship is, to do all the things for your partner also, which you expect from him or her.
If you are in a relationship, and your answer to the above question is 'NO', then I am sorry my friend, but you are going to break up very soon. Because that's the golden rule of a relationship and if you are not willing to follow it, then how can you expect your relationship would go miles.
Now, let us come on those thousands and lacs of people who aren't in a relationship and still want to be loved by someone, provided the condition that they aren't willing to give their love and care to anyone.
The foremost reasons which come to my mind for this and the most precise answer of mine for the main question is:
- We don't want to get out of our comfort zone.
- We are not willing to make any efforts.
We can get the love, care, and respect from someone by staying in our comfort zone only. But for the one who has to give, 'love, care and respect' to you, he or she would need to get out of their comfort zone. And how can you expect someone to get out of their comfort zone for you when you aren't going to do anything for them?
As the famous proverb says, "Do good to others and the same will return to you". That's what Karma also tells us. For expecting someone to love you and to care for you, you first need to do the same for them.
Well, what 'getting out of our comfort zone and making efforts' actually mean?
It means, we need to do the things which might make us exhausted, which might be disinteresting for us, which might have nothing to do with fun and entertainment.
Conclusion: What you need to do?
- You need to understand that life would be amazing if you would first do the things, which you want others to do.
- You need to get out of your comfort zone to love someone or eventually to be loved.
- You won't get the love, care, and support until you will give it to someone.
- You have learned the ways by which you can show your love for your partner. Start working on them and you would be loved.
Alright, guys...
I hope, I have been successful in making you understand the point.
Do work on this, and your life would become satisfying and you will get the love that you seek.
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