"It's over!
Just go to hell!
I hate you! You
screwed my life!
I hardly remember
the last time I laughed with all my
heart!
This is more of a
toxic relationship now. Can't bear it anymore! I am breaking this! Don't want
to see your fuc***g face anymore"!
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It's been a couple
of years together. The past two years had not been extremely wonderful, but, not
miserable at the same time. We already had faced these kinda intense arguments
and fights tens of times before. But, this was something unprecedented.
This time she had thrown all the gifts I had given her, I not being innocent,
had burnt all the greetings she gave. This never had happened before - all the
promises we made to each other were burning in the flames. All the efforts she
had put, all the time she had invested, and all the love she had mixed in designing those beautiful 'messengers of love' were disappearing into the
oblivion along with the thick fumes. We hardly had left any sign or any memory
of our beautiful relationship. All our most precious assets had been buried deep down
somewhere in between ‘Burning, Deleting, Breaking and Throwing’. A state of
extreme melancholy had surrounded us. Not only we two were crying our hearts out, but all the mediums also had been been a part of this ‘heinous
crime’. The 'lighter', the ‘delete tab’ in the mobile phone, the 'hard tile' were
all weeping in anguish for having witnessed the biggest catastrophe.
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Have you faced the
same situation any before? Well, better I should ask – ‘have you ever been in
true love before'? Coz, there’s no doubt in accepting the fact that these kinds
of ‘disasters’ are inevitable in true relationships. Many of you who have been in a true relationship
may have faced this before. It’s true that these kinda fights put you in a
dreadful situation in a state of agony, and eventually, this is the penultimate
reason for the breakup in most relationships. Those who get over these impediments
get to witness the true essence of love and extreme happiness, often called 'euphoria'. Also, those who
don’t – get to see a situation even worse. What’s common in all the
people of the first category is “how hard times they get to face, THEY
JUST DON'T GIVE UP. They never do. They just never want to get apart in any
case”!!!
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What you must keep
in mind is - maybe you have burnt each other’s belongings, but you haven’t burnt
the divine love deep within. Maybe you have deleted all the precious memories,
but you haven’t deleted the affectionate feelings you have for each other. Maybe
you have used some of the rudest cuss words also, but, you actually don’t mean
it!!! { Well, having put control over yourself and not doing any of those acts
of stupidity could have kept you aloof all the lament and not have damaged your
relationship. But, the fact is these kinda arguments and fights in relationships are inevitable. They could only be minimized but couldn’t be eradicated
completely}.
All these fights
will happen, at times you’ll feel like there’s no one else in your life you
could hate this much. But, mark my words – “it’s just a matter of few hours, few
days ( ideally ), few weeks or even in the extreme cases – few months”. All you
need is to just HOLD ON. My friend, I want you to imagine all the good times
you had spent together, all the promises you had made to each other, all the
genuine favors of kindness, love, and care you had received from your partner, and last but not the least - the mesmerizing future you two have seen once. IN NO WAY these fights can
encroach over all these innocent acts of love. Yes - it’s true that out of the four acts listed
above if you haven't had any of them - if good times only mean the ‘physical
good time’ to you if you never have seen your future together and deliberately
came into the relationship just to satisfy your physical needs. Mind it Mr./Ms.
– what you have done can’t be termed as love. Maybe you are so childish that
you don’t even know the difference between ‘true love’ and ‘attraction’. Or, you’re
just an evil person who likes to play with other’s life. In either of the cases, my solemn advice is to get yourself out of the ‘toxic relationship’ as soon as
possible. Nevertheless, for this moment let us not concentrate on those so-called ‘fake lovers’. Let us try to protect the genuine relationships that are
making the word “LOVE” meaningful.
Most of us don’t
count on the importance of ‘healthy relationships in our life. Let us
understand why having a ‘healthy relationship’ is the need of the hour in this
fast-moving world. Say, you have two biggest goals in your life that you want
to achieve no matter what! First is the professional one that you want to crack
the superior UPSC/GATE/CAT/GRE kinda exams and see yourself landing into the best
colleges/institutions/jobs. Or you want to become a successful singer/dancer/actor/writer (a renowned artist in any niche). Second is the
personal one like marrying the partner you have truly loved, have kids, and spend the
entire life with them. Imagine for the first goal, if God or some enlightened saint comes to you and say - "do whatever,
but you’re not going to get it in this life". How will you feel then? Weren’t you
be miserably disturbed? [ Talking about the serious and responsible people only
]. The way failure in this goal will squeeze your heart, twist your motivation
and torment your happiness for a long period of time. SO WILL THE FAILURE IN THE SECOND GOAL. (This strictly doesn’t mean that you need to stick together to a toxic
relationship. It’ll just deteriorate the situation).
But, if your love is
true, if you two have some serious relationship goals then just stick to it!!
Don’t let the outer world or your fights wipe off your immense love for each
other. Give it another chance. One last chance, one more, and one
more... Just give it an extra shot when it’s on the verge of breaking, just
save your relationship once again, once again, and once again!!! Perform the same ritual till the moment you two are sitting beside each other, holding hands, hugging
tight, and saying “we made it love...we made it”!!!! Simply there will be
nothing more beautiful than that.
I hope, making these efforts will surely help you save your complicated relationship.
Wishing you all a happy life, full of love and care.
May your love be as true and unconditional worth exemplary.
See you soonest.
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