Do you remember the lifelong
promises that your loved ones made to you sometime ago, and all those promises
are now buried deep under the grave of their infidelity? Or, do you spend every
single second of your day missing the most special person of your life, who
used to be your sunshine, oxygen, and water; and she/he has now mercilessly
ghosted you? I hope, you don’t! I also
wish that you won’t have to face this anytime in the future, as this perhaps
is the worst that can happen to you, has the potential to screw your life, and put
your professional trajectory, mental balance, and personal relationships in
shambles. A lot of people won’t agree and counter by saying ‘there happen many
other even harsher accidents, and even more excruciatingly painful tragedies’.
True, absolutely! With circumstances forcing to break all bonds with the world,
even with the closest & the dearest of kin; failing terribly in career,
and getting the professional life ruined; suffering from severe depression, and suffocating anxiety
becoming the constant partner everywhere, every second; with peace of mind and
laughter getting permanently eradicated from life; and last, but certainly the
most formidable – losing the desire to live and getting horrific life-threatening
thoughts every single night before hitting the bed. All these mentioned above
have no doubt enough potential to carry the tag for the ‘worst mishaps’. But,
what if I say that these all are gifted to you in a single pack when ‘infidelity’
knocks on your door.
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As a gentle pat to all the accused of infidelity who have cheated their partners by stabbing in their hearts, and permanently killing a significant part of them, I would like to tell them all in the calmest tone (and with a gentle sensation in my eyes) – ‘It’s okay! It’s your life, you aren’t bound in any case to do, or not to do something. And aren't compelled to spend your life with any person, it’s truly a matter of your choice. In fact, what kind of true love is that, that forces someone to stay in a relationship, even if they don’t feel so (yes, it’s not!) Promises, though, are meant to be stuck to, especially lifelong ones; and trust must not be broken, especially for the ones who loved you with all their hearts. Still, you always have the luxury to break them. And that too without even inviting obvious stiff oppression and terrible ire from your partner. A partner who actually has loved you with all his/her heart, will never think of hurting you, or taking revenge in any way, no matter how bad you do to them! BUT… there only remains one expectation from your side. And that must be fulfilled at any cost. Your partner has sacrificed his/her all for your happiness. Even accepted your act of infidelity by swallowing poison for life, that too without emitting a single drop of arrogance, mindless rant, and intentional sabotage towards you. The ball lies in your court now. You anyways, are hitting it hard with your cheating’s bat, that’s going to hit your partner hard deep in their innocent soul, and gonna keep them emotionally handicapped for life. You just have to do one thing – “follow the rules”! Everything comes up with a certain set of rules. What you’re doing is murder, murdering one’s soul. So, at least keep the rules in mind. And what does it mean in this context? It simply means telling your partners the crystal-clear truth, and giving them one last opportunity to talk for as long as they want. Don’t ghost them ruthlessly. Your sudden and tragic jolt to their inextricable bond of purest love will severely damage their heart, mind, and ultimately their whole body, making their life miserable not just for a month/year but, unfortunately, for many decades to come. They already are going to spend their life with a painful dent, and soul-wrenching void in their heart; the onus lies on you to at least alleviate their agony by a meager 0.1%’.
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