Do you have complexities in your relationships ??

Hey awesome people.

It's been a while I haven't seen you.

Hope you all are doing absolutely fine.

As I had told in one of my blog posts, " what it takes for the success in any field is the continuous efforts and the spirit of never giving up ". When I started my blogging journey, I was very much confident and excited about it. I had determined to post regularly without any gaps. That confidence and excitement stayed with me for one week or two, and start fading up with time. I must say, I was a little bit overconfident at that time. To extract out the time from hectic schedules and post 3-4 quality posts a week was not that easy.

Well, what's good for me is that I didn't give up. And that's what matters the most.

I am back with another helping post based on the topic " LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS ". This is the topic so vast and lively that has made the lives of hundreds of people and ruined the lives of thousands. That's why it is so necessary to handle such serious topics maturely and not letting them disturb you. The main topic I am going to write on is, " How to handle relationships to make them last forever ". I think this is the kind of topic, each one of us deals with almost every day in our life. Being a part of the young generation we are most affected by this.

Alright, let us start.

I have taken the three situations in a relationship.

1. Love at first sight :

Well, this is something that seems good in the virtual world only. There is nothing like love at first sight in real life. And it would be better if we name it 'attraction' instead of 'love'. You must be very clear about the huge difference between them.

First of all, I want to clear the confusion between love and attraction. As it is one of the biggest obstacles in living a  hassle-free relationship.

So what's love?

• Actually love is something you can't understand until you fall into it. It's so hard to explain that even 1000s of words wouldn't be enough to and at the same place it's so simple that it can be explained in a single sentence only. 
• It's love when you stay together for years and as many years as you live. Even a girl so beautiful kind of Miss World comes in your class or a guy so handsome and talented but your relationship doesn't get affected a bit by their presence. And you keep on loving the same person with all your heart.
• Love is when you get over every problem, even so hard to tackle. Sometimes the happiness and charm fade in your relationship but the love and care for each other never fade.

And what's an attraction?

• A girl gorgeously beautiful and talented takes admission in your school, college, or workplace and you fall in love with her ( actually it is an attraction ). You tried everything to impress her and finally proposed to her. By the grace of God, she accepted your proposal. After being together for a few months you get bored with her and started looking for someone other.
• Or by the lapse of time, you started facing so many difficulties in the relationship and give up on it.
• Or a girl much prettier and talented than her takes admission in your class and you left your girl behind and started falling for her.

I hope you must be very clear now. Kindly put yourself in the above situations and decide whether you are really in love or it is just attraction.

2. The so-called true love :

These people try their best to make their relationships work but somehow get stuck in the daily problems, fights, and issues. Eventually, they break the bond after a few years which they had once promised to not.

Most of the people got stuck in this one. They love each other, care for each other, and also trust each other. Still, as time passes, things start getting a little messy. There's nothing wrong with fights in relationships. In fact, no relationship reaches a remarkable destination without any fights. What matters is to never break your partner's trust and let the love fade away in between.

3. True love :

These are the people who even fight a lot and face many problems, still, stay together even after 3,4,5.... years. The only difference between them and the last ones is they never get so much exhausted or irritated with the partner or the relationship that they have to break the bond. They always find a solution to the problem or a fight even after a week or two but they do.

Whatever happens, they never let the love die inside them for their partner.

4 ways to make the relationship hassle-free.

If you are in a relationship and it's not going well, kindly follow the steps below to make it the love of 3rd kind ( as discussed above ). Or even if you are already in the 3rd kind of situation, do follow these steps to get over the complexities in your relationships. 

1. Ask yourself the truth.

Your heart will never lie to you. Ask yourself if you really want to be with her or him? If you really want to make them your life partner? Are you in the relationship just for some benefits or do you actually love them? Are you willing to give everything for the sake of the relationship? If you aren't willing to, then please don't spoil your partner's as well as your life.

2. You won't get exactly what you want every time.

Always keep this thing in mind. As I said in my previous blog, ' you'll die trying but you won't let the forward person think the same way you do'. The same is here, your partner won't always listen or do what you say. If a thing is totally right and obvious for you it is not sure at all that it will be the same for your partner too. Stop fighting over things you can't control. Every day you'll get over so many things which will be against your choice. It is true that it's not easy to go against your thoughts even after knowing that you're absolutely right. Try your best to make them understand, but leave it behind if they don't because everyone has a different point of view.

3. You have to get out of your comfort zone :

This rule is valid almost everywhere in life. If you want to succeed you must have to get out of your comfort zone. The same is with the relationship, if you want to keep your partner happy and want the relationship to smoothly sway, you have to come out of your comfort zone. You have to put in the efforts which will make your partner feel like he or she loves me, cares for me etc. You have to give them gifts and surprises from time to time ( not always the expensive ones but the ones which make them feel loved ) to let the spark alive.

4. Have some patience :

Things will take time, just don't rush over them. Either it's a recovery from a serious fight, a plan to come together, or something special to happen. Everything will take time. If you have no patience, it would be very hard for you to handle. Learn to be patient because sooner or later you'll surely get everything you want, just give time some time.

There can so many points in the list above. But the above 4 will surely give a tough impact to your relationship and help you and your partner to remain happy, get over the silly fights and unnecessary ups and downs in the relationship.

Let us conclude the post here. We'll discuss furthermore important points in the coming posts.

Till then,

Stay motivated, stay energetic.

Cheers

PS: Don't forget to smile :)