"Thank you, Anant.
Thank you for being the most irritating person in my life.
Thank you for making me face the most awful days."
( She said in a dull tone )
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Oh, pleasure's mine. ( I responded with a not-so genuine smile on my face).
As I was about to lean forward to give her a passionate hug, she stood from her place and shouted the most anticipated answer - "Stay away!!! Don't even dare to".
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Well, this was rare. I was thinking of asking her the reason behind this behavior but just didn't. Making the best use of my senses, I get away from her and sat on the couch - placed in the remotest corner of the room. "It is going to be cumbersome this time", I murmured.
As I was pretending to be very innocent by counting the blades of the running fan on the ceiling ( do try this trick if you haven't tried it before). Sitting in either corner of the room, she said in an ironic tone - "ten". I overlooked her as if I didn't hear. She raised her voice and said "ten". I looked at her unintentionally and asked "whhaat, whhaat ten?" in a fumble tone. "You were counting the blades of the fan na!" She said.
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{ Silence shattered for a jiffy }
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She stood at her place and started coming closer. As I was trying to figure out what would be her next move, she said "I am sorry, I shouldn't have..." in the most sophisticated manner. Without saying a word, I arranged myself on the couch and made a little vacant space on it. She sat beside me and somehow managed her in the little space, curled her arms over me, and started telling all the things one by one. After 35 minutes of continuous one-sided conversation from her side ( and obviously after a number of hugs and kisses ), she was finally smiling all again.
Now imagine the same situation above and find out what would have happened :
1. If I would have forced her to give the answer to the most annoying question - "Kya hua - what happened" in the very beginning?
2. Upon getting criticized by her in the beginning, if I too would have lost my cool?
3. If I wouldn't have practiced patience until the end?
4. While she was speaking, if I wouldn't have used my listening skills and interrupted in between?
All the above four questions have the same simple answer and that is - ' The situation would have deteriorated. And it would have taken a minimum of 3 days/4 days/ a week or even more to get the things back to normal '.
Well, let me tell you first that the story I have mentioned above takes place in ideal cases only. Now, read the above four situations all again. This is what actually happens in almost everyone's real life. Only we are responsible for making a silly fight or an argument - 'a serious one'. Only we are responsible for taking days or even weeks for the issues actually worth solvable in a few hours.
It is not rocket science. You too can work on the easiest four mentioned things and take the happiness level in your relationships to places. For your better understanding, let me jot down and accentuate the four important points again.
a. Never ask the most annoying question - "Kya hua/what happened" to your partner when s/he is in a bad mood or filled with anger. They won't answer. And still, if you'll keep on asking the same question, you know what'll happen next?!
b. If your partner is in a bad mood, filled with anger, or isn't talking to you properly. For God's sake don't be angry with them ( even if they are criticizing you ) or behave them the same way as they are. I repeat, 'PLEASE DON'T'.
c. Practice patience. It's better to suffer for a day, rather than an entire week.
d. When they are speaking their hearts out, kindly don't interrupt in between. Let them first finish. Practice good listening.
I wish you all the happiness and love in your relationships.
Feel free to contact me here, at anant.vyas13@gmail.com for any of your love, relationship, or personality-related issues.
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P.S.: Really sorry for the long gap. I wouldn't say much on the absenteeism for the last two three months. I would just say 'A wounded tiger is more dangerous' ;)
See you all soonest
Take care