How Long Does it Take...to Heal a Broken Heart?

‘How long does it take to heal a broken heart’?

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A couple of weeks/months/years – depending on the severity of the heartbreak you are dealing with and the importance of the other person in your life. Despite facing a terrible setback in their relationship, I have encountered many people who have regained control of their life’s sinking ship and re-sailed it to the happy shore by burning midnight oil for ages. That indeed has made them enemies with their sleep and drenched their cushion with droplets soaked in grief for ‘n’ number of nights. But thankfully, on the ‘n+1th’ day, they have somehow learnt to not just take attention off their mutilated hearts, but also focus on the things & people that actually matter. Nonetheless, deep down in their memories, they always remain up with innumerable cherishing tales from all the good times spent with their partner. They speak volumes with closed lips and moist eyes, describing their immense affection for their (now estranged) partner, embracing their mesmerizing feeling of togetherness, and highlighting the unadulterated sanctity of their love.

Behind every individual having gone through the above, weeks/months/years later there exists a relatively stronger, bolder and more mature man (or woman) adorning a gracious smile on his face, maintaining a calm and composed aura, flaunting his unflinching determination towards work, fondly pursuing his hobbies, building a handsome network of contacts that he can count on, and developing cordial & valuable relationships with the external world – friends, colleagues, family and (better) love partners. However, hidden behind the above visible layer of sheer strength and poise, there exists a camouflaged reflection of his grievous past.

No matter how mentally strong you become or how phenomenally wonderful life you live out there, deep in you'll always feel a painful void, that'll only get bigger and nastier every fuc*in' time you take a breath in solitude away from the hustle & bustle of life. Despite trying every little-huge tactic to completely get over the tragic detachment with your ex-girl/boy that screwed your life and snatched even the minutest of happiness from it, time and again you'll be subjected to bear the brunt of being a prisoner of your broken past.

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All it takes is one 'real' heartbreak and betrayal from your soul partner that'll make you suffer (at least in bits and pieces) for the rest of your life. For every new sapling that you plant, underneath will lie the broken roots impeding its growth; for every new connection you develop, exist a latent force substantially affecting the chemistry; and for every honest stride you take to achieve the ambitious professional goals, gigantic emotional hurdles will impede your way severely challenging your determination. For all the above misery, blame your own profound affection for your undeserving partner, the shattered mindless dreams, and the broken fake promises that will over and over (again) make you fall hard from the sky of glories to the ground of despair. 

Irrespective of emboldening yourself into a stronger man (or woman), your mind will still feel trepidation whenever you dare drive down the lanes of the past. All those things that give pleasure and are universally known for their rejuvenating powers- embracing caffeine in a cosy cafe, making love with intoxicants along with the soothing cuisines of live music, fondling with the pages of a good book, strolling in a serene environment consuming nature's delectable delicacies, long driving in the countryside absorbing the gust of therapeutic fresh air, and nourishing your haptics in divine pleasure with a calming massage - none of the above work for you the way they do for others. In fact, unintendedly set the ball rolling to target your vulnerable pins and turn all the 'dashing' into 'daunting' in no time.

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And yes...the answer - 'how long does it take to heal a broken heart'?

Well, unfortunately...it never heals completely. Emotional wounds remain forever and become an inseparable part of your life. Though they gradually heal with time, poked by the thoughts of the bygone or the encounter with that bloo*y clown only to 'reinvite' the mess.

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Alas...be optimistic, hope for the 'n +2nd' day, and manifest for it to be the new beginning of your dream life.