Do you want to know the results of 'wasting time' ?? 'WOULD THAT' is more painful than you have ever thought!!

Hello dear friends

Long time no see.

Hope you all are doing absolutely fine.

As you see, it's the 26th of February. February is almost gone. And ultimately one more month of the 'new year 2019' has been passed. Do you remember the first day of 2019 when we all were celebrating the new year? Do you remember the first day of Valentine's week when we all were so much excited and filled with much zeal for the upcoming week, to celebrate 'the festival of love' with our partners? If you have celebrated your birthdays in the last 56 days of the new year 2019, do you remember how happy you were on your special day?

My only question to you is, did you give your best shot and your best effort to make all these occasions worth remember? Did you enjoy every moment of the special day without wasting any time? Can you speak by all your heart that you have lived every moment as if it is never going to come again?

If I would be asked to predict the answers to the above questions on behalf of others, 'No' would be my answer for most of the questions above. I know that we all have forgotten all the promises we have made to ourselves and all the resolutions we have taken at the very beginning of the new year. I know that we all have lost the energy and the zeal which we were carrying in the beginning. I know that we have returned to the same ordinary track on which we had been walking for so long.

Life has been good for those who haven't wasted their time. But life has been amazing for those who have extracted the best out of every moment of their life. If you want to succeed, if you want to be a person everyone knows, if you want to fulfill all your dreams, you need to extract the best out of every moment of your life. Even if you are happy with all you have and your more ultimate ambition and goal in your life is not big enough. I want you to think all again before giving up, I want you to make a goal that seems impossible to achieve, I want you to see yourself as the most successful person in your field. You have got the power, you have got the energy, you have got the determination which is sufficient enough to get the most difficult of life's achievements. What you just need is to see the best in you and start working on it. 

I remember the time when I was in Kota for the preparation of IIT JEE. Papa-Mamma always guided, supported, and motivated me in the best way they can. Even today, whenever I think about that time, the mistakes I made there, the things which I shouldn't have done, I end up crying. As I have told in the very early blog post of mine, I would never forget the advice, one of my Physics teachers, Anu Gupta Sir had given me on 7th September 2014. He told that 'there is nothing worse than a painful 'would that'. It is simply a nine-word sentence but it gives a valuable lesson that could change your life to extraordinary levels.

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I have experienced it and I must tell you that it is something beyond painful. I want you all to do understand the above nine lettered sentence. I really want no one of you to experience that pain. No matter what you are doing in your lives. I am pointing down few points to whom you can correlate with and they would help you understand the essence of that nine-lettered sentence.

01. No matter for what examination you are preparing for - be it your class X, XII, IIT JEE, NEET, GATE, GRE, CAT, UPSC, or any other competitive exam. What you need to keep in mind is you have got limited time to prepare. Even if you may have a year or two for the examination, but once they are gone and you haven't prepared well, you would leave up with just a painful "would that". And for God's sake, don't make the mistake of thinking that too much time is left. Years would pass by as months and months would pass by as of days. I remember the day when I had made a chart of the days remaining for my GATE examination. I really don't feel like around 8 months have been already passed from the very first day I have made the chart. Even today, it feels like I had just made the chart a few days ago. Give your best effort and give all your hard work now. This is a perfect time. Once gone, you would be facing the worst regret in your life.

02. Have you ever been in a fight and beaten up someone so badly or have you ever said something to one of your closest friends or relative which you shouldn't have, just in the heat of the moment? Next time onwards, always keep in mind that a few words spoken at the wrong time can permanently break your relations and nothing is going to be left but the most painful 'would that'. The utmost reason for keeping this point in mind is, it just takes a few seconds or a few minutes to destroy everything.

'Self-control', this is the trait which you must have in yourself. If you are in self-control, you would never face the miserable situation of 'would that'. Try to control yourself, try to understand the fact that your momentary anger might give you a lifetime of pain. It is just a matter of a few seconds when you are going through a bad time, try to control yourself in that. Self-control is the key that would save you from lifetime misery and pain.

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03. Opportunities!!! Wow, the word itself is so charming and you can imagine the number of times the beauty of it is raised when it is a 'Golden opportunity'. Opportunities always bring up something extraordinary and help us reach to the apex. But have you ever felt the pain of missing an opportunity, or I should say have you ever felt the unbearable pain of missing a golden opportunity? I wish you haven't. I have felt it and  I am telling you honestly, a missed opportunity will hurt you more than any heartbreak.

It might be due to hesitation, lack of confidence, shyness, carelessness, and some more traits like this. No matter how hard you have to work to get over all these things, no matter how bad or fearful situations you have to face. Give all your efforts and do everything you are afraid of. There are very few chances that you won't get the desired result or people might make fun of you but it is totally acceptable. What's not is to miss an opportunity. Always keep in mind, you are never going to get a second chance. The opportunity you are getting today or at this moment is meant only for now, once gone you would never get it back again. And what left would be, a tearful 'would that'. I am telling you, once you will make the best out of every opportunity you get, much more feathers would be added to your cap automatically.

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I hope, you all would be agree with all the three points above and you could relate them to your life.

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PS: Big thanks to you Anu Sir. It was the most remarkable advice, I have ever got.

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