I have long been fascinated with how some people always keep a big smile on their face, do well in every walk of their life, and maintain healthy relationships with everyone – from parents, to friends, to partners? Despite putting in my stupendous efforts in figuring out the root cause, or rather should I say root skill behind those people living a life full of contentment, zeal, peace, and calm; I fell on my face every time. In looking for ways to keep the levels of my happiness high, little did I realize that I actually was unknowingly dragging myself into the toxic labyrinth of restlessness.
But, for the past few days, I am witnessing a sudden spike in the feel-good hormones, looking into the mirror with much more confidence, and finding my
self-esteem touching the stratosphere-high levels, that at times used to be in
the core of the earth. I have found that the horses of my brain are now running at
impressively faster speeds, and my relationships that were once sailing through
the choppy waters of arguments & petty fights, now making peace and moving unhindered
in the same challenging conditions.
So, what actually has changed that’s turning things from dense dark to
dazzling bright for me? Am I taking consultation from experienced counselors,
or a special messenger of God in the form of a caring friend has taken entry in
my life? Well…I wish for the latter to see the light of reality someday, but for
the time being there hasn’t happened anything of that sort to me. Without further
waiting, let me now directly plunge into the ocean of the pros of the
million-dollar solution that has turned my life all hunky dory. Read, follow,
and adopt the following idea in your life, as it carries immense potential to switch
your mental state from haywire to sheer serene.
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I don’t want to exhort all those dead rubbers and ultra-big turn-offs out
there who say that they don’t have any hobby. So, if you find yourself in the
above categories, mind you, but stop being a nerdy & unattractive chap, and
identify and develop one for yourself as early as possible. Those who already have few,
you might have heard it tens of times already, and a lot of people might have
suggested this before, but let me put it in an even better manner that’s definitely
gonna make you run out of your comfy couch/bed, and compel you to pursue your
hobby with all enthusiasm.
There’s no denying the fact that every human on this planet goes
through a cycle of happiness & sorrow; laughter & tears; and success &
failure. There are umpteen days in every month when you feel down and feel like
doing nothing but grieving and brooding over your past remorse, and pathologically
daydreaming over future uncertainties. These are such horrible testing times
that you find it almost impossible to keep yourself engaged in the work
assigned to you, or in the work that you ideally should be doing. And let me
tell you with honesty, and having enough scientific shreds of evidence behind it; it is
absolutely futile, in fact, it’s an indicator of stupidity to keep trying on doing
some typical work during those times, as you will not just miserably fail to give
in your hundred percent, but will further spoil things for you when the time’s
pendulum will come your way. Hence, instead of getting overly confident in your
focus, concentration, and self-control; better accept the scientific reality
that you can’t (and shouldn’t) do all things all the time. As a result of it, the
amount of time that you will be forced to invest in completing your designated
task, and rectifying the loopholes in the sub-ordinary levels of work will be double/triple the time that you actually would have needed, hadn’t you engaged mindlessly
concentrating, and had rather switched to pursuing your hobby for that specific
duration of time.
Time invested in pursuing your hobby (that may range from artistic, to sensory, to
photography, to culinary, to miscellaneous) not just helps you in tackling those tormenting times, but actually gives your brain the power to
achieve a thumping comeback. Instead of lying prone on your bed, lamenting over
why it always happens to you, and blaming the Almighty for giving you a tough
life; you better engage in capitalizing on your hobby. Play a musical instrument/sing/dance/write/draw/play/watch…there
are innumerable things that you can engage yourself in. Doing this will not
just help you get rid of the complicated times - but also satisfy your senses, make
you better at hobbies, that ultimately will give a healthy boost to your
psychological, emotional, physical, and mental health; and that in the future,
once these challenging times will pass (probably within few hours/days/weeks), help
you make a powerful comeback in an even more efficient way.
As I mentioned in the initial paragraphs of the post, above is the reason that despite struggling at various places in life, I am still keeping a genuine smile on my face these days, and a gust of calming air is helping me properly balance my work, and manage my relationships well. I completed my 200th piece of poetry just yesterday. Also, investing more time here on my blog & Twitter (now X) handle, taking good care of my garden, devoting a significant chunk of time every day to singing & playing guitar, spending an hour on the badminton court, watching the recently released Netflix documentary - Depp v. Heard, and reading the recently released 'Hindus in Hindu Rashtra', by none other than 'Anand Ranganathan'. People may call these mere hobbies, but for me, they are way more, and will forever be.