It takes exemplary courage to hold on to promises and stick to lifelong commitments no matter how dull or complicated things go. Not everyone can afford this five-lettered gem, that actually holds a value of no lesser than $5 trillion. An opulent & erudite woman/man having all the materialistic & intellectual luxuries in life, who pleases everyone with her influential personality, eloquent communication, and multiple jaw-dropping talents; who holds a special penchant into the hearts of opposite gender through her captivating aura and tempting bodily traits; and last but not the least, who successfully cracks the toughest examinations, bags the highest of the packages, and gets the most sought after jobs; holds no true value if she doesn't own the most treasured gem called 'TRUST', and has no regard for her own promises and commitments. The galloping wealth of billions of dollars holds absolutely nil value, if this gem isn't a part of it. No matter how precious stones one has kept in the locker, from diamond to platinum, to even Koh-i-Noor; the combined real value of all these above materialistic gems will always remain inferior to the immaterialistic, but invaluable gem i.e., trust.
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It really takes the heart of gold, the soul of diamond, and the feelings of platinum to not wrong a person, and to not break his hard-invested trust. Especially when the other person has immense love and unconditional care for you; when his/her ultimate goal in life is to always see you smiling, and give you all the inner & outer-worldly luxuries. It's perhaps a sin to ruthlessly break the trust of people who devoted their entire life and sacrificed their interests, just for the sake of giving you a life, you have created in your imaginary utopian land. But, it's an even bigger sin to break the trust of someone without letting the other person know the exact reason behind your extreme and heart-breaking step, and leaving him/her keep guessing for the rest of their life about what actually had transpired, and what drastically dried the affection’s tank of a person, that once used to be filled with gallons of pristine love-abundant water? There's a term in the love dictionary for the above, and it's called 'ghosting' (mind you, it does include your partner acting like a formidable and evil ghost, and giving you scathing scars all over your inner soul, but has nothing to do with paranormal). Despite knowing the fact that the other person is as pure as the driven snow, and whose quintessential personal-life motive is not just to attract and date you for a limited time by faking temporary people-pleasing tantrums, but by winning you for his entire life, by religiously putting in what all is needed; people who don’t own this precious gem, get your innocent little trust's dove killed with their merciless & monstrous cheating’s hawk.
Through the above para, I, at any cost, seriously do not intend to disregard the feelings of anyone. If your partner is fed up with you and has become dead tired of dealing with your immature, irresponsible, disrespectful, and hurtful acts; they have got every right to leave you and compromise on their promises and your trust. You can't, and shouldn't play the victim card in that scenario, and shouldn’t cry foul over them breaking your trust, and throwing away all their promises and commitments in your own madness' litter. Might be possible that they had made lifelong vows and commitments in the past, but they aren't compelled to remain stuck to them in the above case. (Just to make it clearer, it's like accepting your body with a cancerous tumor, and still not opting for any medical treatment for its removal. It will eventually kill you in the long run, unless you get timely rid of that). But, there always exists a respectable and proper way of taking extreme steps, especially when they include sensitive elements like the above, that have a direct impact on someone's life and have the potential to catastrophically turn it upside down. The other person who's gonna get his/her feelings & trust destroyed under the doom of your tragic move (even if it’s legitimate at your end), at least deserves a last talk/cry right from the bottom of their heart, before moving on in their life with a permanent painful void in their heart, and a lifelong feeling of loneliness. As long as you're allowing them to have the last word, you won't have to carry the heavy baggage of guilt of pitilessly breaking someone's trust. But, as I mentioned in the above para, mercilessly Ghosting someone, especially when the other person had put his heart and soul into the relationship, is the height of apathy. And unfortunately, tens of thousands of people in the present times, where there are ample more exciting mingle opportunities away from their narrow and pale relationship space indulge in this. That's why I started this post with 'not everyone can afford the most expensive treasure called - trust. It takes exceptional courage.'
So, where do you see yourself? Do you have got the daring guts and herculean courage to possess the exquisite gem of unrelenting trust, that’s in dearth these days? Do you really count yourself as a high-value man/woman who won’t wrong a person no matter what, and will stick to your lifelong commitments, not just in the favorable, but also in the most unfavorable circumstances?